What is Intimacy Coaching ?

You may be asking yourself, “What does an intimacy coach actually do?”.

The short answer is: Support individuals and couples in building deeper emotional and physical connection through communication, self-awareness, and embodied practices.

In reality, it is much more complicated than that.

People are unique, diverse, and have different needs. We work with everyone, from couples who are having difficulty navigating communication, to a single person who wants to explore their kinky desires and needs a safe space to explore.

We have personal experience with queer identities, kink, alternative relationships, disability, fatness, and neurodivergence. We have been where you are. We are here to help.

Let me give you some examples of what intimacy coaching could look like for you:

An autistic adult might crave sexual connection but feel stuck navigating social anxiety, or have a fear of being awkward with communication. With the right support, they an identify their sexual needs, practice sensual communication, explore sensory experiences, and develop the courage to form connections with intimate partners.

Someone exploring their gender identity might feel awkward or unsure during intimate moments, like their body doesn’t quite match how they want to be seen. With the right support, they can explore how their gender and sexual identity intertwine and practice sensuality with someone to guide them through their exploration, without judgment, and with celebration of living in their authenticity.

Someone with a physical disability might worry about how their physical limitations can affect sex. This may be due to positioning, energy levels, or other variables. They may have never had an intimate partner and want to practice what sex could look like for them, be it masturbation or with a partner. Coaching can help them understand how intimacy can work for them, explore adaptive ways to experience pleasure, and build confidence in expressing needs without shame.

Yes, I know. That was a lot of words…

It is my hope that these vignettes can help others understand how important sexual exploration and intimate relationships are for most people. Sex is a basic human need. Sometimes we need a little guidance to figure out how to get that need met.